In > Through

Recently I was asked by someone at church, "What have you been thinking about lately?" This question is brutal. I swear I'm ADD and thinking about a hundred things all the time. So I had to actually stop and think about it for a second, and this truth bubbled up to the surface of my soul:

God is more interested in what he's doing in you than he is through you.

In a season of life where I'm finding myself giving a lot, sacrificing a lot, and being busy a lot, I can be tempted to evaluate my life based on my external actions. I can lull myself into an artificial sense of growth, given the tons of activity going on around me. But God's almost always looking inward to grow me, not just what's around me. He cares about the work, but even more the worker.

 

Where We're Going in 2015

I'm not a big fan of January 1... the post-Christmas let down, the resolutions, the swell of people at the gym... the hype never really matches reality. But this year in our home will be much different than previous years. The final hours of 2014 will find us wrapping up our ministry at Harvest Naperville and the first hours of 2015 will find us starting a new chapter of ministry at Bethel Church in Crown Point, IN where we'll be working hard to launch a campus in Hobart/Portage. That is where we're geographically going, and we're pretty excited about it!

Our next step as a family is to experience a ton of change in a short amount of time. Our house goes on the market this week. I begin to commute to Indiana on Friday, and we'll begin as Campus Pastor for the Hobart/Portage Campus. In March we're expecting our newest addition to the family - a baby boy. We're also aiming to move around then to Northwest Indiana.

With all this happening, I was reminded of the old preacher's adage, "Preach the gospel to yourself daily." In the midst of all that needs to be done, my Martha's Heart (a reference to this sermon) has been waging war against the need to let my soul rest in Jesus. The reality of where we're heading as a family is to press into Jesus daily, to allow him to work out details of our move and our family and the ministry. To spend our days in prayer and see God move in our daily surrender and obedience.

I'm expectant of God to move in our family in 2015. Even in the chaos of transition, meeting new families and a new community, my prayer is that we'd be led clearly, given vision, and would be used by God to lead others to Jesus. Where our family is going in 2015 is to let God grow us in our faith as we step out and trust him completely.

Where's God taking you in 2015?

Teaching Hard Topics (and why my wife is a better communicator than me)

The past few days in the Jacobsen family have been fun. Sunday evening at Harvest Naperville's HSM we finished up a series called #nowtrending, where students had the opportunity to ask any question about faith, God, or the Bible and we'd do our best to answer it. The overwhelming question students asked was this: "What does the Bible REALLY say about Same-Sex Attraction?" So that was fun.

And then on Wednesday, Kristin had the privilege of teaching high school girls about lust at Aurora Christian School, and following her message, I gave a message to the middle school students on the same topic.

The messages were good. They were deeply biblical, full of compassion, conviction, and hope. Jesus was the hero. But the response was very mixed. And so it caused me to reflect on the issues surrounding teaching hard topics in student ministry and I've been challenged by this one thought:

You can attack the dragon of culture all you want, but until you win a heart, you can't win at all.

I received this e-mail from one of our small group leaders after our discussion on Sunday night. She wrote,

This was an interesting meeting to say the least. We had half of the girls who were very vocal about being pro-homosexuality. The other half felt like it should just be accepted because it is so prevalent today. Unfortunately it did not seem like their opinions changed much after the lesson. I believe they pretty much shut down and were not receptive to hearing another point of view.

This should solidify in pastors the need to address tough topics, for sure. Culture is big, it is pervasive, and it is collective. Our students default to the societal norm if we don't put before them God's wisdom.

Yet, our aim isn't to overthrow culture, it's to win hearts.

This is what my wife has taught me so well, and is why she's naturally a better communicator than me. Watching Kristin prepare for her message to these girls was a bit like watching a friend train for a marathon - there was a lot of questioning, a lot of discipline, and a lot of anticipation. But what I love about what I saw in her is this - when she takes an issue, she wraps her heart around it so she can connect God's Word to the heart of her listeners. And it's warm, personal, true, honest, and convicting.

It's easy to get sidetracked on the logic, clarity, and urgency of the message. But when I can let God use my heart in preaching, communication results in change. This was a super timely reminder for me... "out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks."

A Young Pastor's Reflections on the Mars Hill Era

The recent resignation of Mark Driscoll from leadership at Mars Hill and the subsequent decision by the elders to disband the campuses and dissolve Mars Hill as an organization has launched a tidal wave of questions and critiques. I've been helped tremendously by Mark Driscoll's preaching and ministry. I'd even go so far as to say my passion for people meeting Jesus has only been enriched by Mars Hill and Mark Driscoll. The aftermath of the fallout has provided fertile ground for reflection and reminders of what's important in ministry. What follows is just a few current thoughts on ministry and leadership as I continue to think through my own ecclesiology.

Preaching boldly, living boldly and leading boldly must flow from loving boldly.

Most men in Seattle love Mark Driscoll for what he represents... rough edges, real talk, manliness and strength. We admire Mark for his boldness. However, ministry is not a calling of brutality and strength, it's a calling to meekness and shrewdness. Jesus' demonstration of this in his life and death is our example. Leading a church, staff, and elders must stem from a love for leading people and not just a drive for organizing people. Apparently, the church, staff, and elders at Mars Hill often felt manipulated, lied to, and pressured.

In my few years I've had the privilege of sitting down with some incredibly well-loved leaders and pastors. One constant lament I've heard from the  previous generation sounds like this:

Why is it that our largest churches today are led by the most brash and egotistical men?"

I'm inspired by the voices of the past generation who encourage us to lead differently. And I'm optimistic as I look around at the thousands of next generation leaders who are resolving to lead differently. There is a true resurgence in leadership driven by love, character and relationship... not by knowledge, results and employment.

If it falls apart without you, it was built around you. And you failed.

The question that most churches don't ever want to talk about is, "what happens if this guy fails, falls, resigns, or dies?" I imagine this question haunts elders and executive leaders every time a new campus is launched, new schools are started, and more books are published based upon one guy's leadership philosophy. It's as if we operate out of a disillusionment, as if "our situation is unique," "our guy has good fences," or "God will raise someone up," "we're too big to fail."

This is an area of church leadership around the country that stems from insecurity. One way you know you've discipled someone well is if they begin to do what you're doing, and do it even better than you. Insecure leaders don't disciple other men to lead beyond themselves. Insecure leaders are self-limiting forces in their organization, because they put a limit on the success of the people in the church. Working for an insecure leader is exhausting. Ministry under the direction of an insecure leader will always revolve around that leader looking good, having a wider audience, and watching attendance always go up.

I could be wrong, but it seems the true test of leadership isn't what you accomplish in your time in office, but what lives on after you and moves forward to change a community, nation, and world. I think of the local community pastors who serve in their church faithfully and never write a book, yet train up men every year and send them out to plant healthy and secure churches. By the end of their ministry, dozens of other faithful pastors have been trained, and have trained up even more pastors. A whole army of ministers is an incredible legacy I pray I might have one day.

Can we all agree that results in ministry usually come slowly? A secure leader builds the organization around a strong plurality of elders, equips and mentors the next generation of leadership, and seizes every opportunity to make sure Christ is the hero, not themselves. In that regard, their work will live long after they step out of leadership.

Multi-site is a short-sighted strategy if it doesn't anticipate eventual transition.

The seduction of a "wider audience" and having the resources to quickly, easily, and efficiently reach people has caused almost 5% of our churches in America to adopt this model, with almost 10% of church participants attending a multisite church. There are arguments on both sides. If Paul could livestream in the early church, would he do it? Probably. But I bet he would equip and train up young men to continue the work and transition sites to local, autonomous, independent churches.

Many have had their eye on The Village Church and the Denton transition. The strategy employed by The Village Church to leverage muli-site as a means to plant autonomous churches seems to have struck an sweet spot between being biblical and practical. Too many multi-site churches are multi-site because of the gifts of one particular man. Without enabling others to grow in leadership, preaching, and pastoring, every multi-site church without a transition strategy will face the same fate as Mars Hill. I pray every church considering adopting such a model would consider how long a campus will be dependent upon the central church, who will be placed in a position of leadership and authority, and how will the campus be led locally? Without these questions being answered and defended biblically, planting campuses will always be empire building.

So where does this bring me as a next generation leader?

I suppose a summary conviction cementing in my soul is this: The gospel is urgent, but the gospel is spread relationally. Leading without love will cause you to lose everything. Building legacy without the next generation of leadership will cause you to lose everything. Empires rise, and empires fall. Multi-site is a newer, sleeker way to build an empire rather than building a multi-acre fortress.

In the end, I'm interested in building God's Kingdom, not my brand's empire. May I be secure in the reality that the one King is on the one throne, and my reputation, accolades, and successes ought not detract me from worshipping Him and serving Him with a heart that makes Him famous. How amazing is it that through this collapse, God is picking up the pieces and starting new churches? He's a sovereign leader. He's our Sovereign Lord.